“What do you say we put up this tent, and make a fire, and cook ourselves up a big-pot-of friendship?”
by Carson Abrir
Few children see their parents’ divorce tweeted, blogged, and analyzed to the extent of pop sensation Miley Cyrus, who turns 18 this month.
Then again, very few children contribute to a $150 million family estate as much as Miley Cyrus has since declaring at the age of nine that she wanted to become an actress. Miley’s meteoric rise to stardom with the success of Hannah Montana propelled her to teen idol status, brought Disney their largest audiences ever, and family fortune comparable to her world famous godmother, Dolly Parton.
Like the challenges Hannah Montana regularly faces in the hit TV series, many youngsters and adults identify with the tug-a-war for Miley to side with dad, Billy Ray, or mom, Tish, as the couple publicly battle out their increasingly nasty divorce.
When couples choose to end their commitment to each other, too often innocent children become hijacked victims of emotional turmoil, anguish, betrayal, and retribution of parents who become bitter, guilt-ridden, or eager to gain financial benefit regardless of the price loved ones pay for their behaviors.
It takes strong character, love and respect for children for parents in the midst of a break-up and afterward to keep themselves from trying to poison their kids against another parent.
When children do take sides, long after a gloating parent may glory in the support they’ve won, the children are likely to continue paying the price in broken relationships and the lasting impact on their own self-worth.
As Miley famously said in her portrayal of Miley Stewart on Hannah Montana, “What do you say we put up this tent, and make a fire, and cook ourselves up a big-pot-of friendship,” may be better advice for parents tempted to involve children in their breakup then any thoughts of dragging them into a brawl.