PAIRS DTR App Keeps Couples, Families, and Friends Connected through iPhone and Facebook

Weston, FL (February 24, 2010) — PAIRS Foundation today released a new iPhone® app that helps couples, parents, families, and friends stay connected — to each other — through their iPhone® or iPod touch and Facebook.

The app, called PAIRS DTR®, guides users through five steps that strengthen love relationships, from sharing appreciations to wishes, hopes and dreams.

“Confiding is the lifeblood of intimacy,” said Seth Eisenberg, President of the nonprofit PAIRS Foundation in Weston, Florida. “With our lives busier than ever, it’s important to stay actively connected to the people we love.”

PAIRS DTR for iPhone offers a five-step exercise to help couples, families, and friends stay connected.

PAIRS DTR, which stands for “Daily Temperature Reading,” guides users through a practical, step-by-step communication exercise to express appreciations, keep loved ones up-to-date, ask questions, confide concerns, and share wishes, hopes and dreams. Once users tap out their text in each area, they can post a DTR to a Facebook page or by e-mail and watch their relationship temperature rise.

Eisenberg said 30 years of research shows that communication is key to strong marriages and families. “We all need to know we’re appreciated and valued by the people we love,” he said. “PAIRS DTR for iPhone will help people who love technology and gadgets remember to stay connected with the people they love too.”

PAIRS DTR is currently available for free on iTunes.


PAIRS Foundation, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit established in 1984, is one of the world’s oldest and leading providers of relationship skills training. The foundation develops educational programs and best practices, trains program facilitators, and conducts research. In 2006, the foundation was awarded a multi-year, multi-million dollar grant from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, to provide marriage education and relationship skills training to thousands of couples, singles and teenagers in South Florida and conduct research. Learn more at or explore other opportunities for marriage education and relationship skills training at

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What is PAIRS?

Intimacy is critical to the process of developing and sustaining close relationships, now a major concern in our culture. Modernization has shifted the primary function of marriage from providing security, stability, and raising children to developing a lifetime of love and intimacy. In previous generations successful marriages depended upon duty and role competence. Modern marriages require greater interpersonal competence as well as equality between partners. Relationships are sought that not only create stable families but also provide partners with a lifetime of love and companionship.

The PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills) programs, developed by Lori H. Gordon, Ph.D., provide a comprehensive system to enhance self-knowledge and to develop the ability to sustain pleasurable intimate relationships. Gordon's approach integrates a wide range of theories and methods from psychology, education and psychotherapy and presents them in an educational format. PAIRS acts to bridge therapy, marital enrichment, and marriage and family development.

Programs: Courses and Workshops

PAIRS offers programs to the public led by PAIRS Trained Professionals (licensed health care professionals), and PAIRS Instructors (certified clergy and educators), trained under the auspices and supervision of Gordon and the PAIRS Foundation, the organization that officially oversees PAIRS programs, products and licensing worldwide. There are PTPs and facilitators around the world. Check “Finding an Educator” to find one near you or near one you love who may need PAIRS.

PAIRS is effective in all populations for which it has been adapted. PAIRS has relationship skills training programs for children and youth, PAIRS for PEERS, that are taught in schools, churches and agencies. PAIRS has programs for the Military, for use by chaplains and family service workers. PAIRS has faith-based programs for the Jewish, Catholic, and Christian church communities. PAIRS is currently developing programs and program delivery systems for disadvantaged youth, unmarried families, single parents, domestic violence, prison parolees, and related groups who can benefit from relationship skills training. PAIRS provides a vital ingredient to build stable marriages and healthy families with more hopeful futures for children. These programs for special groups will be taught by local agency workers and by specially trained community teachers and mentors. Research on PAIRS has demonstrated that PAIRS works for all groups under all circumstances evaluated. PAIRS is a modern technology adapted to our rapidly changing society in behalf of creating a saner, safer more loving world.

What you will learn in PAIRS

Sustaining a pleasurable intimate relationship does not work by magic. It depends upon a set of skills and understanding that can be learned. We learned most of what we know about intimate relationships through our early experiences in our families. Our personal history has a great deal of influence on what happens in our current relationships - on our behavior, our feelings, our expectations. We can change these influences if we become aware of them and wish to. It is well worthwhile to sort through what we inherited, keeping what fits for today and changing what does not.

PAIRS Competencies are specific skills that you will learn from PAIRS. These competencies focus in three areas: 1) emotional literacy; 2) conjoint partner skills for building and maintaining intimacy; and 3) practical knowledge, strategies and attitudes for sustaining positive marriage and family life. You may click on the above links to see a listing of the skills taught in PAIRS.

The Goal of PAIRS is a relationship that both partners can live with joyfully. For this to happen, each partner must become able to identify his or her own feelings and needs, and learn to communicate them in such a way that they can get met. This means communicating one's needs and desires without making the other partner feel resentful, smothered, burdened, manipulated, or inadequate. Easily and fully meeting each others' needs is the foundation of intimacy, fulfillment, and happiness.

PAIRS teaches specific easily learnable tools for successful communication such as confiding, complaining, and clarifying and for effective problems solving such as managing anger, expressing anger safely, fighting fairly for change and eliminating dirty fighting. PAIRS also guides the vast deepening of self-knowledge and develops emotional literacy. PAIRS addresses pleasure and satisfaction by teaching skills to enhance bonding, sensuality and sexuality in marriage. PAIRS teaches a profound but simple model, the Relationship Roadmap, to understand relationship success and to understand relationship mishaps and know what to do about them. PAIRS teaches over 60 skills that, after PAIRS, become the participants' PAIRS Tool Box for ongoing relationship maintenance.

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  1. Great post. I definitely agree that having good communication is crucial for families to operate well!

    Especially since i’ve moved across the country for my job, I’ve very thankful for cell phones so I can call my family any time I want.


    Thank you. We hope you’ll participate in an upcoming class or webinar to see how PAIRS can contribute to your life. If you have an iPhone, you might enjoy the PAIRS DTR App now available through iTunes.