Training for Best Practice in Marriage/Family Education

Family, Marriage, Fatherhood Education

March 10 – 13, 2010 in Weston, Florida

Hyatt Bonaventure
PAIRS Four-Day Level One Professional Training will take place March 10-13, 2010 at the Hyatt Bonaventure Resort and Spa, located minutes from Fort Lauderdale Airport. Reconnect with your passion for making a difference for couples, marriages, families and improving the lives of children by becoming trained to bring PAIRS to your community.

Escape to a remarkable 23-acre retreat at the luxurious Bonaventure Resort & Spa in Weston, Florida (minutes from Fort Lauderdale airport) for four days of professional training on the best practice in marriage enrichment. Immerse yourself in powerful, proven, experiential curricula that deliver lasting benefits for participants in marriage, fatherhood and family education programs.

Pioneering Approach

PAIRS Training with the 101st Airborne Division
Trainers Seth Eisenberg and Lauren DelGandio deliver PAIRS Essentials class at weekend retreat for hundreds of deploying Soldiers and their spouses in Nashville. Following the program, 99% of participants said they would recommend PAIRS.

PAIRS brief, intensive educational programs have empowered tens of thousands worldwide through transformational experiences and practical skills for enhanced communication, emotional connection, bonding, attachment, and healthy conflict resolution.

Built on the visionary work of pioneers in education, counseling, social work, and psychology such as Virginia Satir, Dr. Daniel Casriel, George Bach, and Lori Gordon, PAIRS offers a powerful road map to creating and sustaining loving, intimate relationships that are the foundation for happiness, pleasure and success.

Evidence-based, Best Practices

PAIRS Class for Liberty City Youth
PAIRS classes are helping revitalize inner city neighborhoods with classes for youth, parents, schools and community leaders.

Learn to teach evidence-based programs, such as PAIRS Essentials, PAIRS for Life, and PAIRS for PEERS, which capture the imagination and inspire participation from highly diverse audiences. From couples in crisis, urban and rural families, inner city youth, active duty, guard and reserve families impacted by combat deployment, prisoner re-entry, expectant parents, fathers, adoptive families, premarital couples, new immigrants, and many others, PAIRS consistently delivers a research–validated approach for navigating the challenges, miracles, and opportunities of love relationships.

Marketing, Recruitment, Teaching Strategies

PAIRS national faculty members Seth Eisenberg, Lauren DelGandio and Francisco Robledo have personally delivered classes to thousands of participants, in English and Spanish, winning acclaim through the highest levels of evaluation and program excellence. Learn marketing, recruitment, retention and teaching tips directly from PAIRS Trainers who have successfully launched and led community-wide programs within highly diverse environments.

Collaborate in Pursuing State/Federal Grants

PAIRS at Villa Aurora
PAIRS partnerships with neighborhood and faith-based organizations such as Carrfour Supportive Housing enable delivery of programs that transform communities.

Explore opportunities to tap into state and federal grant funding for community wide healthy marriage, family, fatherhood, military, and re-entry  initiatives, including strategies for partnership development, grant writing, research, and project management.

Don’t miss the chance to escape to magnificent south Florida next month for this exceptional personal and professional training opportunity. Reconnect with your passion for making a difference for couples, families and improving the well-being of children by training to lead PAIRS programs in your community.

Space is Limited, Register Early

Tuition is $900 per person/$1350 per couple, which includes all course materials. Accommodations at the Bonaventure Resort & Spa are available to training participants at special reduced rates. Space is limited. Please register early at Call for more information.

For more information, contact PAIRS Foundation by e-mail to or call (877) PAIRS 4U (724 7748) ext. 802.

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What is PAIRS?

Intimacy is critical to the process of developing and sustaining close relationships, now a major concern in our culture. Modernization has shifted the primary function of marriage from providing security, stability, and raising children to developing a lifetime of love and intimacy. In previous generations successful marriages depended upon duty and role competence. Modern marriages require greater interpersonal competence as well as equality between partners. Relationships are sought that not only create stable families but also provide partners with a lifetime of love and companionship.

The PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills) programs, developed by Lori H. Gordon, Ph.D., provide a comprehensive system to enhance self-knowledge and to develop the ability to sustain pleasurable intimate relationships. Gordon's approach integrates a wide range of theories and methods from psychology, education and psychotherapy and presents them in an educational format. PAIRS acts to bridge therapy, marital enrichment, and marriage and family development.

Programs: Courses and Workshops

PAIRS offers programs to the public led by PAIRS Trained Professionals (licensed health care professionals), and PAIRS Instructors (certified clergy and educators), trained under the auspices and supervision of Gordon and the PAIRS Foundation, the organization that officially oversees PAIRS programs, products and licensing worldwide. There are PTPs and facilitators around the world. Check “Finding an Educator” to find one near you or near one you love who may need PAIRS.

PAIRS is effective in all populations for which it has been adapted. PAIRS has relationship skills training programs for children and youth, PAIRS for PEERS, that are taught in schools, churches and agencies. PAIRS has programs for the Military, for use by chaplains and family service workers. PAIRS has faith-based programs for the Jewish, Catholic, and Christian church communities. PAIRS is currently developing programs and program delivery systems for disadvantaged youth, unmarried families, single parents, domestic violence, prison parolees, and related groups who can benefit from relationship skills training. PAIRS provides a vital ingredient to build stable marriages and healthy families with more hopeful futures for children. These programs for special groups will be taught by local agency workers and by specially trained community teachers and mentors. Research on PAIRS has demonstrated that PAIRS works for all groups under all circumstances evaluated. PAIRS is a modern technology adapted to our rapidly changing society in behalf of creating a saner, safer more loving world.

What you will learn in PAIRS

Sustaining a pleasurable intimate relationship does not work by magic. It depends upon a set of skills and understanding that can be learned. We learned most of what we know about intimate relationships through our early experiences in our families. Our personal history has a great deal of influence on what happens in our current relationships - on our behavior, our feelings, our expectations. We can change these influences if we become aware of them and wish to. It is well worthwhile to sort through what we inherited, keeping what fits for today and changing what does not.

PAIRS Competencies are specific skills that you will learn from PAIRS. These competencies focus in three areas: 1) emotional literacy; 2) conjoint partner skills for building and maintaining intimacy; and 3) practical knowledge, strategies and attitudes for sustaining positive marriage and family life. You may click on the above links to see a listing of the skills taught in PAIRS.

The Goal of PAIRS is a relationship that both partners can live with joyfully. For this to happen, each partner must become able to identify his or her own feelings and needs, and learn to communicate them in such a way that they can get met. This means communicating one's needs and desires without making the other partner feel resentful, smothered, burdened, manipulated, or inadequate. Easily and fully meeting each others' needs is the foundation of intimacy, fulfillment, and happiness.

PAIRS teaches specific easily learnable tools for successful communication such as confiding, complaining, and clarifying and for effective problems solving such as managing anger, expressing anger safely, fighting fairly for change and eliminating dirty fighting. PAIRS also guides the vast deepening of self-knowledge and develops emotional literacy. PAIRS addresses pleasure and satisfaction by teaching skills to enhance bonding, sensuality and sexuality in marriage. PAIRS teaches a profound but simple model, the Relationship Roadmap, to understand relationship success and to understand relationship mishaps and know what to do about them. PAIRS teaches over 60 skills that, after PAIRS, become the participants' PAIRS Tool Box for ongoing relationship maintenance.

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