Giving a massage and going away for the weekend (together) topped the list; taking your spouse to a sporting event and buying an expensive present came in last.
by CARSON ABRIR
A survey by PAIRS Foundation asked several thousand people what made them feel cared about and loved in their relationship with their spouse/significant other. While I know making regular deposits in my relationship “Love Bank,” is important to sustaining love, romance and intimacy, I found some of the results pretty surprising.
Generally, Money Won’t Buy You Love
Especially with the holiday shopping season around the corner, it was a relief to see very few people are wowed or turned-on by expensive gifts.
Only a few of the top 20 responses, such as going away for a weekend together, involve money. Most cost nothing more than time and, in some cases, thoughtfulness and creativity.
How do these top and bottom 20 responses compare to what makes you feel cared about by that special person in your life? And how much do you really know about what you can do to leave your significant other feeling special and important? You may be surprised by what you find out.
Scoring your own list and encouraging your loved one to do the exercise too with PAIRS Foundation’s free, online Love Bank App will give you a head start on a New Year’s resolution lots of us will make in a few weeks. The App, along with a couple dozen more evidence-based exercises from the industry leader in marriage and relationship education, may be the best marriage advice ever.
Top 20 Responses
Bottom 20 Responses
If your partner’s preferences are similar to others completing the survey, inviting him or her to a sporting event is not likely to add many coins to your relationship Love Bank; neither are expensive gifts, running errands, carrying packages, or romantic clothing (sorry Victoria’s Secret). Here are the bottom 20 responses, beginning with the lowest.