“Love isn’t something you find. It’s something you build — breath by breath, truth by truth.”
— Seth Eisenberg, PAIRS Essentials
On Monday, September 15, in living rooms, offices, and quiet corners across America, something quietly revolutionary will begin.
For five consecutive Mondays, from 1 to 3 p.m. Eastern Time, a new group of seekers — some single, some partnered, some simply curious — will log on for what’s been called relationship boot camp for the emotionally intelligent. It’s not therapy. It’s not a lecture. And it’s definitely not your average self-help class.
It’s PAIRS Essentials: a research-based, emotionally immersive experience designed to teach what very few of us ever learned growing up — how to love, and how to stay loving when things get hard.
The Class That Teaches the One Thing Everyone Needs
“People spend years learning how to drive, how to work, how to perform,” says Seth Eisenberg, President & CEO of the PAIRS Foundation, who’s taught the program to thousands. “But nobody teaches us how to be close. How to say what we feel, hear what our partner means, or ask for what we need without fear.”
Eisenberg’s voice — warm, grounded, with just enough mischief to disarm — has become a kind of North Star for those navigating the inner landscapes of connection. His classes don’t feel like classrooms; they feel like conversations you wish you’d had years ago.
In this upcoming cohort, participants will explore core tools like:
- The Emotional Jug — a simple but powerful way to express bottled-up emotions safely.
- The Daily Temperature Reading — a five-step method to connect, appreciate, and problem-solve daily.
- The Confiding Tool — a life-changing practice for sharing what you’ve been afraid to say.
- The Powergram — a visual map of decision-making in relationships.
And perhaps most powerfully, they’ll come to recognize their own stress styles — the automatic ways we retreat, attack, appease, or shut down when love feels threatened.
“It’s not our flaws that destroy relationships,” Eisenberg teaches. “It’s the fear of being seen — of being vulnerable, emotional, and real. The antidote isn’t perfection. It’s presence.”
Real People. Real Stories. Real Love.
In previous sessions, participants included:
- A retired Army veteran trying to reconnect with his adult daughter.
- A newly divorced mother learning to love herself again before dating.
- A married couple on the brink of separation, daring to hope that love could still grow.
One woman, after her second session, messaged:
“This class gave me a voice I didn’t know I’d lost. I spoke to my husband last night without shutting down. For the first time in years, he really heard me.”
Another man, recently widowed, wrote:
“I didn’t join PAIRS to find someone new. I joined to find myself again. And maybe learn how to be less alone.”
Not Therapy — But Therapeutic
PAIRS Essentials is grounded in decades of research and built on the shoulders of giants like Virginia Satir, Daniel Casriel, and Lori Heyman Gordon. But it’s Eisenberg’s voice that has carried this work into the 21st century — especially through the pandemic, when emotional isolation spiked and many found themselves confronting long-avoided relationship truths.
“Most people don’t fall out of love,” Eisenberg says. “They fall out of practice.”
What PAIRS offers is the chance to practice again — to make love not a mystery, but a set of learnable, repeatable skills that lead to deeper connection, safety, and joy.
An Invitation — Not a Fix
This fall’s training is offered online, open to the public, with sliding scale registration available. Attendees will meet in real time, in a live facilitated experience — no recordings, no pretense. Just people showing up, sometimes shaky, sometimes skeptical, always human.
Each Monday is a step on what Eisenberg calls “the relationship road map” — a path that begins not with blame, but with curiosity.
“Love begins when we stop asking, ‘What’s wrong with you?’ and start wondering, ‘What happened to you — and how can I be safe for your story?’”
Ready to Begin?
PAIRS Essentials Training
🗓 Starts: Monday, September 15, 2025
🕐 Time: 1:00–3:00 PM ET (five consecutive Mondays)
📍 Location: Online (live, interactive)
🎓 Facilitated by Certified PAIRS Trainers
💬 Open to singles, couples, and all relationship stages
🔗 Register: PurposeBuiltFamilies.com/upcoming
In a world flooded with quick fixes, swipes, and surface-level connection, PAIRS Essentials offers something radically different: a slow, steady return to the heart.
Because at the end of the day — or the end of five Mondays — the greatest love stories aren’t written by fate.
They’re built by people willing to learn the language.
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