Why Reading Together Can Save (and Enrich) Your Marriage
Marriage isn’t a destination—it’s a journey full of detours, potholes, sunsets, and, occasionally, roadside karaoke. Reading together is one of the most powerful tools couples can use to stay connected, grow emotionally, and tackle challenges with empathy.
If you’re looking for books that go beyond clichés and offer real tools and heart-deep insight, start with these five relationship game-changers.
1. Love That Grows With You by Seth Eisenberg
Best for: Couples who want to love more honestly, deeply, and fully.
This warm, hopeful guide by PAIRS Foundation President Seth Eisenberg is more than a book—it’s a companion for your journey as partners. Drawing on decades of experience teaching relationship skills to veterans, parents, and couples in crisis, Eisenberg weaves powerful PAIRS tools like the Emotional Jug, Powergram, and Fair Fight for Change into everyday stories that hit home.
Quote we love:
“Love isn’t something you find. It’s something you build—day by day, breath by breath, truth by truth.”
Why it works: Practical tools + personal storytelling = deep, lasting impact.
2. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
Best for: Couples who want science-backed strategies to improve their relationship.
Gottman’s decades of research have revealed what makes love last—and what silently erodes it. His seven principles, like nurturing love maps and using gentle startups, are grounded in data and easy to apply.
🧠 Key takeaway: Learn to identify and avoid the “Four Horsemen” that predict relationship breakdown.
3. Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson
Best for: Couples who want to feel safe, heard, and emotionally bonded.
Johnson’s work on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) shows that most arguments are really protests over disconnection. Through seven guided conversations, couples learn to reestablish secure emotional bonds.
Try this: Use Johnson’s “Reach and Respond” approach during conflict for breakthrough moments.
4. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Best for: Couples who don’t feel heard or appreciated—despite trying.
Chapman teaches that people give and receive love in different ways. Learning your partner’s “language” (e.g., Quality Time, Acts of Service) helps eliminate confusion and unmet expectations.
🎯 Simple test, big impact: Take the free quiz and discover your love languages together.
5. Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
Best for: Couples who experience anxious or avoidant patterns in love.
This book reveals how attachment styles shape how we give and receive love. It’s like getting the emotional user’s manual you never had.
🪞 Insightful moment: “You’re not needy—you’re wired for connection. And so is your partner.”
Final Thought: Read Together to Grow Together
The strongest relationships aren’t built on grand gestures—they’re made of small, everyday choices. Reading one of these books together isn’t just about learning. It’s about creating space for conversation, compassion, laughter, and growth.
So pour a cup of something warm. Put your phones on silent. And open a book that could open your hearts.
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