Why Love Needs New Tools (Not Just Good Intentions)

How we love has changed. What we need to stay connected has too.

We used to think love was something you found — like a treasure hidden in the right person, at the right time, under the right circumstances.

But love today lives in a different world.

We are more connected and more distracted than ever. We carry the past in our pockets. We text more than we touch. We’ve inherited stories about what love should be — but very few tools for how to build it when things get hard, messy, or real.

I wrote Love That Grows With You because I’ve seen what happens when couples, families, and individuals have the courage to stop surviving love… and start practicing it.

“The truth is, no one teaches us how to love.
We’re handed scripts written in childhood, modeled by parents, shaped by culture.
Most of us come into adult relationships with a hope that love will ‘just work’ — as long as we find the right person.
But love doesn’t work by itself.
It grows with attention. It deepens with practice.
It heals when we stop hiding and start being seen.”

(— from Chapter 1, From Survival to Soulmates)

What This Book Offers:

Over the next few weeks on Fatherhood Channel, I’ll be sharing stories, insights, and tools from the book to help you:

• Communicate more honestly — and hear each other fully
• Handle stress and conflict without disconnecting
• Build rituals of connection (even with limited time)
• Navigate parenting, grief, desire, and distance with love intact

This is not a book about perfect relationships.
It’s a guide for growing love that’s real, resilient, and relevant to the world we live in now.

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Reflection Prompt:

Before next week, take a moment to ask yourself:

“What did I learn about love growing up — and is that the kind of love I want to pass on?”

You don’t have to fix it. Just notice.

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Let’s grow together. One conversation, one insight, one practice at a time.