Hidden Expectations Can Become Irreconcilable Differences

Can AI save marriages by surfacing the hidden expectations that can become irreconcilable differences?

Millions of couples will breakup this year because of faulty assumptions and hidden expectations they don’t even realize exist. In 2023, we saw famous couples such as Deion Sanders and Tracey Edmonds, Deborra-Lee and Hugh Jackman, Jeezy and Jeannie Mai Jenkins, Khadijah Haqq and Bobby McCray, Britney Spears and Sam Asghari, and many more call it quits. When asked why, more often than not: “Irreconcilable differences”.

Expectations that Become Irreconcilable Differences

Often those “irreconcilable differences” are about hidden assumptions and expectations. In courses on the practical application of intimate relationship skills, PAIRS, we call those assumptions and expectations: Love Knots. Now an AI-powered relationship coach and emotions mentor is helping couples identify and resolve those expectations before they sabotage intimacy.

There’s a virtual laundry list of expectations that are particularly true of our closest, most intimate relationships.

If You Loved Me …

One of the most common begins this way:

“If you loved me, you would know …”

Surfacing Hidden Expectations

Helping people bring those hidden expectations and assumptions to the surface is one of the most important tasks of marriage and relationship education courses such as PAIRS. Once a person or couple can consider the typically unique assumptions they have of intimates, they can separate out those based on reality from those that are nothing short of fantasy.

If You Are Unhappy

One common fantasy is the idea that if another person is unhappy or unwell, we should be able to fix it. Too often, when we realize we cannot, it can be tempting to disappear altogether. Irreconcilable differences, perhaps?

Laundry List of Marital Mishaps

You can explore dozens of these common assumptions and expectations, consider those that are familiar, and work personally with a PAIRS trained relationship coach and mentor to create more realistic attitudes and beliefs. Yodi, an AI-powered relationship coach and emotions mentor, is trained by PAIRS to help people discover their hidden assumptions and replace them with expectations that can be realized. Yodi is today available on Google Play and the App Store. Thousands have already downloaded the free App.

Get Started with Yodi, the AI-Powered Relationship Coach

Learn more at www.mypairscoach.com.