Valentine’s Day is Wednesday, February 14, 2024. Couples, that means you’re less than two weeks from Valentine’s Day and you’ve got some moves to make. Here are some relationship tips from PAIRS, the Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills program that has been helping singles and couples strengthen relationships, marriages, families for almost half a century.
What’s your partner’s Valentine’s Day love language?
Gifts and presents
What’s your partner’s love language at this time in his or her life?
If this Valentine’s Day, it’s flowers, gifts and presents that are meaningful, you’ve got no shortage of options from 1-800-Flowers, Amazon, the local jeweler or mall, to print shops for beautiful pictures and albums, and lots of places in between. If you’re creative and handy, you could even make your own gift which would really show you care!
Acts of service
If this Valentine’s Day, it’s acts of service that bring happiness to your partner, what are some acts that would be particularly meaningful? Is there a project you can help with? A repair that’s waiting for your attention? Some extra time with the kids? Help with school? Washing and waxing the car? What’s an action you can take that would be meaningful to your partner and says you care? If you don’t know, ask.
Affection and touch
If this Valentine’s Day, it’s affection and touch that lights your partner up, how can you make more time for closeness and intimacy? Mornings, afternoons or evenings? For some, making a point of sharing frequent embraces makes a difference. For others, weekly date nights are important. PAIRS sensual and sexual pleasure dates, which are quite different, are two couple favorites. Virginia Satir, the mother of family therapy said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” If you’re looking for ideas to spice up affection, touch, sensuality or sexuality in your life, consider a fun training, such as the PAIRS Passion training or weekend.
Words of affirmation
If this Valentine’s Day, it’s words of affirmation that bring your partner joy, how conscious are you of expressing the words that lift your partner up throughout the day — in person, by text, through cards and notes? Many couples and families get to a really good place by incorporating the PAIRS Daily Temperature Reading (DTR) into their lives. The first step of the DTR is sharing appreciations. After a short time, it becomes a habit, almost second nature, to look for what’s right and express it to the people who are important to you. Check out this video to learn the five easy to follow steps.
Quality time
If this Valentine’s Day, it’s quality time that’s most important to your partner, what would it take to plan some special “us” occasions where you’re free from distractions and can focus on the pleasure and treasure of one another? Some couples commit to one or two nights a week, and some even schedule one full weekend a month just for each other. Depending on what your schedule and budget allows, being intentional about “us” time will help strengthen any relationship.
No matter what your circumstances, PAIRS AI-Powered Relationship Coach and Emotions Mentor, Yodi, will help your relationship get stronger and happier.
From the Daily Temperature Reading for strengthening connection to Talking Tips for learning to confide concerns and listen with empathy to Emptying the Emotional Jug to find emotional relief and deepen gratitude, there are more than a dozen PAIRS skills you can learn with Yodi. Those skills will help you improve communication, problem-solving, and emotional connection. It’s hard to imagine a better investment in your relationship on Valentine’s Day or any day.
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