Fort Lauderdale, FL (PRWEB) November 18, 2009 — PAIRS Foundation is offering a series of free one-hour webinars to help families learn five steps for creating joyful holidays and family celebrations.
“Holidays can be a time of wonderful celebration, sharing and connection,” says Seth Eisenberg, PAIRS Foundation’s President and CEO. “But for many,” he says, “it can also be a time of added anxiety and stress as extended families come together around the dinner table.”
“Practical skills to help families connect and confide with empathy, honesty, and compassion are especially important during the holidays,” Eisenberg says. “We’re delighted to be able to offer free webinars to help families experience powerful conversations that matter during this holiday season.”
Lauren and Michael DelGandio first attended a PAIRS class in Weston, Florida three years ago to learn skills to strengthen their 14-year marriage. “From the first exercise,” Michael DelGandio says, “we began rediscovering the joy and passion of our earliest years together.”
“The skills made an immediate difference for us as a couple and as a family,” Lauren DelGandio adds. “Three years later,” she says, “our family is stronger than ever. We’ve learned to easily, naturally and regularly confide, share, and play along with a deeper understanding of ourselves and each other.”
Eisenberg says PAIRS has touched the lives of tens of thousands of families such as the DelGandios since marriage education and relationship skills classes were first offered to the public in 1983.
“Falling in love is the easy part,” he says. “PAIRS classes deliver time-tested, research-validated skills for nurturing, sustaining and celebrating love.”
Eisenberg says the free webinars will include an introduction to PAIRS unique approach to the logic of love and emotions, stages of relationship, bonding, communication styles that strengthen families through open communication grounded in empathy and respect, with five specific steps to help couples and families connect with each other during holiday celebrations.
PAIRS Foundation, a 501 (c) (3) non-profit organization established in 1983, is one of the nation’s oldest and leading providers of relationship skills training. PAIRS Foundation develops and delivers educational programs that enhance interpersonal relationships, conducts research, and trains course leaders who deliver services worldwide.
For registration or more information, visit the PAIRS website at PAIRS.com.
What is PAIRS?
Intimacy is critical to the process of developing and sustaining close relationships, now a major concern in our culture. Modernization has shifted the primary function of marriage from providing security, stability, and raising children to developing a lifetime of love and intimacy. In previous generations successful marriages depended upon duty and role competence. Modern marriages require greater interpersonal competence as well as equality between partners. Relationships are sought that not only create stable families but also provide partners with a lifetime of love and companionship.
The PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills) programs, developed by Lori H. Gordon, Ph.D., provide a comprehensive system to enhance self-knowledge and to develop the ability to sustain pleasurable intimate relationships. Gordon's approach integrates a wide range of theories and methods from psychology, education and psychotherapy and presents them in an educational format. PAIRS acts to bridge therapy, marital enrichment, and marriage and family development.
Programs: Courses and Workshops
PAIRS offers programs to the public led by PAIRS Trained Professionals (licensed health care professionals), and PAIRS Instructors (certified clergy and educators), trained under the auspices and supervision of Gordon and the PAIRS Foundation, the organization that officially oversees PAIRS programs, products and licensing worldwide. There are PTPs and facilitators around the world. Check “Finding an Educator” to find one near you or near one you love who may need PAIRS.
PAIRS is effective in all populations for which it has been adapted. PAIRS has relationship skills training programs for children and youth, PAIRS for PEERS, that are taught in schools, churches and agencies. PAIRS has programs for the Military, for use by chaplains and family service workers. PAIRS has faith-based programs for the Jewish, Catholic, and Christian church communities. PAIRS is currently developing programs and program delivery systems for disadvantaged youth, unmarried families, single parents, domestic violence, prison parolees, and related groups who can benefit from relationship skills training. PAIRS provides a vital ingredient to build stable marriages and healthy families with more hopeful futures for children. These programs for special groups will be taught by local agency workers and by specially trained community teachers and mentors. Research on PAIRS has demonstrated that PAIRS works for all groups under all circumstances evaluated. PAIRS is a modern technology adapted to our rapidly changing society in behalf of creating a saner, safer more loving world.
What you will learn in PAIRS
Sustaining a pleasurable intimate relationship does not work by magic. It depends upon a set of skills and understanding that can be learned. We learned most of what we know about intimate relationships through our early experiences in our families. Our personal history has a great deal of influence on what happens in our current relationships - on our behavior, our feelings, our expectations. We can change these influences if we become aware of them and wish to. It is well worthwhile to sort through what we inherited, keeping what fits for today and changing what does not.
PAIRS Competencies are specific skills that you will learn from PAIRS. These competencies focus in three areas: 1) emotional literacy; 2) conjoint partner skills for building and maintaining intimacy; and 3) practical knowledge, strategies and attitudes for sustaining positive marriage and family life. You may click on the above links to see a listing of the skills taught in PAIRS.
The Goal of PAIRS is a relationship that both partners can live with joyfully. For this to happen, each partner must become able to identify his or her own feelings and needs, and learn to communicate them in such a way that they can get met. This means communicating one's needs and desires without making the other partner feel resentful, smothered, burdened, manipulated, or inadequate. Easily and fully meeting each others' needs is the foundation of intimacy, fulfillment, and happiness.
PAIRS teaches specific easily learnable tools for successful communication such as confiding, complaining, and clarifying and for effective problems solving such as managing anger, expressing anger safely, fighting fairly for change and eliminating dirty fighting. PAIRS also guides the vast deepening of self-knowledge and develops emotional literacy. PAIRS addresses pleasure and satisfaction by teaching skills to enhance bonding, sensuality and sexuality in marriage. PAIRS teaches a profound but simple model, the Relationship Roadmap, to understand relationship success and to understand relationship mishaps and know what to do about them. PAIRS teaches over 60 skills that, after PAIRS, become the participants' PAIRS Tool Box for ongoing relationship maintenance.