Archive for January, 2010
A sour economy, soaring healthcare costs, and difficult job market is leading increasing numbers of men to marriage education classes for tips and tools to bring greater harmony to their families, improve relationships with spouses and children, and strengthen their ability to weather financial challenges.
Nearly 50 million Americans live with a disability. For many within this community, the challenges of sustaining relationships can be life and death matters.
While there is no one size fits all approach to reducing teen pregnancy, educational programs that focus on helping youngsters better express themselves through conversations with trusted confidants offer much promise. That’s especially so when confidants are parents and other significant adults who are able to model healthy relationship building skills.
A marriage educator considers how his life might be different if his own parents had participated and reflects on the impact for children whose parents reach out for help. Redistributed from Seth Eisenberg’s blog, Redefining Relationships.
Research demonstrates that PAIRS relationship skills training, a behavioral/cognitive educational approach developed, evaluated, and refined over a quarter century, has the potential to reverse the trend of marital and family breakdown and significantly contribute to strengthening families and improving outcomes for children.
How do we respond when tragedy afflicts loved ones who are instantly a world away? How can we answer when family and friends are trapped dying or dead within collapsed homes and buildings, babies and their mothers are crying out unanswered prayers for help amidst the chaotic ruins, thousands of corpses are bearing silent witness to helplessness in the face of tragic devastation, basic services that provide sustenance and life are eviscerated, and disease and desperation is rising each moment from the ruins? For the residents of Carrfour’s Little Haiti community, some answers were clear.
If any of these 12 statements sound familiar, discover how relationship skills training can help you step back from the brink of family breakdown and divorce to save your marriage and family: “I can never forgive you,” “I can’t talk to you,” “I just don’t love you anymore,” “I never really loved you,” “I’ll never be happy in this relationship,” I’m in love with someone else,” “I’m so angry at you,” “It’s too late,” “There’s no chemistry,” “You betrayed me,” “You’re not the person I married,” “You’ll never change.”
Politicians are not the only ones calling it quits this month. In divorce filings nationwide, an estimated 100,000 American couples will throw in the towel on their marriages in January. While those decisions will not receive the attention of this week’s political announcements, for their children especially, the lifelong impact will be far more significant.
More than a quarter century ago, Lori Gordon, a Northern Virginia marriage and family therapist whose early career included extensive work with adolescents in residential treatment centers, realized that one of the most important contributions mental health professionals and educators could make to children was to help their parents’ own relationships. Mrs. Gordon developed the concept of relationship skills training into an educational approach that today ranks among the preeminent, evidence-based marriage education programs in the world, having evolved into a comprehensive model that attends to ethics, program evaluation, rigorous quality management, and ongoing training for leaders.